We must be willing to get rid of the life we have planned so as to have the life that is waiting for us!
While watching the film Finding Joe by Patrick Takaya Solomon, I was motivated to think more about my life journey and who I have become. In the most difficult times, when I felt my world had fallen apart, that is when I found my POWER. Don’t get me wrong, my life has been great and I have made some pretty major life choices spontaneously that have worked out well for me – this is what makes me ‘ME’ and I love who I am. Other people have gone through much harder and horrific things than what I have ever had to face and I don’t wish any of it on anyone. It is not what happens in life but the action we take to what happens. From the most difficult times comes strength, understanding and compassion.
We are who we are because we have faced the terrible things that happen to us!
Opportunities to find deeper powers within ourselves come when life seems most challenging!
How do we move through these times positively and calmly?
For me, taking one day at a time. Not overthinking, not planning, just being. We are human ‘beings’ not human ‘doings’. Was this easy? Hell no. I had days where I shut myself off from the world and went into the ‘poor me’, why is this happening to me, what am I doing wrong phase. Overthinking was making me sick.
I would meditate and go for walks in nature. I have amazing family and friends who keep me on track. I had to slow myself down, stop the ferris wheel going so fast so I could stop and smell the roses, appreciate where I was and review what I had achieved. Random messages would pop up reminding me I was on the right path, telling me that the experiences I was going through were an initiation into fulfilling my purpose. Advising me to stand tall and maintain my dignity – no matter what. They reminded me to keep going, to face and overcome my fears.
When I looked into my fears and I mean really analysed them, I appreciated that I was scared of my true self. I realised that in life we have been conditioned to do things as others want us to do. We grow up wanting to please everyone else and that is often to our own detriment. My fear was doing things that others wouldn’t expect of me – being true to myself – doing what made me feel alive. As in Finding Joe – Following my Bliss, I suddenly got that if I overcome the fear of myself, I would gain my POWER and become my HERO. That is now a daily goal – to overcome any fear that gets in my way. Life throws challenges at us to stretch us and keep us on our toes. We have a choice as to how we react to these.
As Brene Brown says – Choose courage over comfort. The best, most courageous moments come after the struggle. What action we take and what we do with our lives is what makes us a HERO. Love and accept yourself as you are. You are enough.
If any of this resonates with you and you would like to talk to me further about the challenges you are going through – give me a call.